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Summary. Research shows that people suffering from emotional exhaustion experience higher levels ofwork-life conflict. They may find that they have less patience to engage with family and friends at the end of the day and become frustrated with them more easily — a problem that is exacerbated by the current Covid-19 crisis. That’s why it’s important to remember to pay attention to your emotional energy and note when reserves run low. Learn what factors tend to drain them and experiment with ways to reduce the strain. Fix what you can, and learn how to more effectively handle what you can’t. Think about what values and qualities drive you and practice being centered and present for short periods of time to create more experiences of joy and connection. 22.95 • Save • Share Take my coaching client, Evelyn. A product manager in a medical device firm that’s recently been acquired, she was already struggling with a high level of uncertainty at work prior to the pandemic. While she feels lucky to be financially stable for the time being, work remains an emotional struggle. Since the acquisition, she hasn’t been getting reliable information from senior leadership and doesn’t know whom to trust. Consequently, she can’t provide clarity to her worried, and now remote, team, which makes her feel like an unreliable leader. She is disappointed at her boss’s failure to advocate for the division and to demand greater clarity from the executives of the acquiring company. What’s worse, the...

Being in touch with your feelings will make you a better person, as well as a better parent and partner. Being true to your emotions can’t help but make you feel better about yourself, for you’re able to be authentic. When we choose to bury our feelings, we act differently. We may not make ourselves available to others and may withdraw, or just not fully engage when we do spend time with other people. At other times, we can react inappropriately because our emotions are pulling us in a different direction from where we really want or need to go. When you express how you really feel (in an appropriate manner), problems get solved, relationship issues get resolved, and life is easier. In addition, you will like your life better because you’re not holding on to unhealed or confusing feelings. Most of us are far better at talking about what we don’t like than about what we enjoy or what touches us deeply. Take the time to tell someone who has made your life a little better that they have done so, and you will also feel better for having said it. Do your best to spend at least as much energy expressing your positive feelings as you do the negative ones. Once you create an emotional balance, your life will start to make more sense. Ultimately, we all want to experience and share the good stuff more than the toxic stuff that course through our days, but it can take a while to develop the habit. It’s not as much about practicing as it is about how you come across and what it feels...

• Facebook • Twitter • Pinterest The world is a noisy place. There’s always something going on, and it’s easy to get overwhelmed. It’s important to find ways to protect your peace so you can stay sane. How many times have you said “yes” to someone or something because you didn’t want to appear selfish or unkind? How many times have you held back from saying no because it wasn’t convenient or you didn’t want to give others the impression that you were difficult? It’s important to be a good friend, neighbor, and co-worker. But it’s also essential that you take care of yourself too. Below are 17 ways to protect your peace. What it Means to Protect Your Peace The definition of “protect” is “to keep safe from harm or damage.” When you protect your peace, you’re keeping your mental and emotional state free from negative influences. This doesn’t mean you have to put up walls and avoid all contact with the outside world. It simply means being mindful of the things and It also means being deliberate about the things that bring you joy and making sure they are a part of your life. 17 Ways to Protect Your Peace 1. Say no when you need to. Sometimes you just have to say no, even if it goes against what others expect from you. Saying no is an important way to protect your peace. 2. Stand up for yourself. It’s important to be assertive and 3. Don’t be afraid to walk away. If someone or something is causing you stress, it’s okay to walk away. This doesn’t mean you’re giving up or being a...

Verywell Mind content is rigorously reviewed by a team of qualified and experienced fact checkers. Fact checkers review articles for factual accuracy, relevance, and timeliness. We rely on the most current and reputable sources, which are cited in the text and listed at the bottom of each article. Content is fact checked after it has been edited and before publication. • Using mindfulness to build self-awareness • Identifying negative thoughts • Replacing negative thoughts with more realistic, positive ones • Practicing acceptance rather than trying to avoid or deny negative thoughts • Learning to cope with feedback and criticism • Using a diary to track your thoughts • Jumping to conclusions: This distortion involves making assumptions about what others are thinking or making negative assumptions about how events will turn out. • Catastrophizing: This pattern of negative thinking is characterized by always assuming that the worst possible outcome will happen without considering more likely and realistic possibilities. • Overgeneralization: This pattern is marked by a tendency to apply what happened in one experience to all future experiences. This can make negative experiences seem unavoidable and contribute to feelings of anxiety. • Labeling: When people label themselves in a negative way, it affects how they feel about themselves in different contexts. Someone who labels themselves as "bad at math," for example, will often feel negative about activities that involve tha...

What Is an Emotion Wheel? Basic Emotions During the 1970s, psychologist Paul Eckman identified six basic emotions that he suggested were universally experienced in all human cultures. The emotions he identified were happiness, sadness, disgust, fear, surprise, and anger. He later expanded his list of basic emotions to include such things as pride, shame, embarrassment, and excitement. Verywell / JR Bee Combining Emotions Psychologist Robert Plutchik put forth a "wheel of emotions" that worked something like the color wheel. Emotions can be combined to form different feelings, much like colors can be mixed to create other shades. According to this theory, the more basic emotions act something like building blocks. More complex, sometimes mixed emotions, are blendings of these more basic ones. For example, basic emotions such as joy and trust can be combined to create love. A 2017 study suggests that there are far more basic emotions than previously believed. In the study published in Proceedings of National Academy of Sciences, researchers identified 27 different categories of emotion. Rather than being entirely distinct, however, the researchers found that people experience these emotions along a gradient. Let's take a closer look at some of the basic types of emotions and explore the impact they have on human behavior. Happiness Of all the different types of emotions, happiness tends to be the one that people strive for the most. Happiness is often defined as a pleasant e...

Being in touch with your feelings will make you a better person, as well as a better parent and partner. Being true to your emotions can’t help but make you feel better about yourself, for you’re able to be authentic. When we choose to bury our feelings, we act differently. We may not make ourselves available to others and may withdraw, or just not fully engage when we do spend time with other people. At other times, we can react inappropriately because our emotions are pulling us in a different direction from where we really want or need to go. When you express how you really feel (in an appropriate manner), problems get solved, relationship issues get resolved, and life is easier. In addition, you will like your life better because you’re not holding on to unhealed or confusing feelings. Most of us are far better at talking about what we don’t like than about what we enjoy or what touches us deeply. Take the time to tell someone who has made your life a little better that they have done so, and you will also feel better for having said it. Do your best to spend at least as much energy expressing your positive feelings as you do the negative ones. Once you create an emotional balance, your life will start to make more sense. Ultimately, we all want to experience and share the good stuff more than the toxic stuff that course through our days, but it can take a while to develop the habit. It’s not as much about practicing as it is about how you come across and what it feels...

Verywell Mind content is rigorously reviewed by a team of qualified and experienced fact checkers. Fact checkers review articles for factual accuracy, relevance, and timeliness. We rely on the most current and reputable sources, which are cited in the text and listed at the bottom of each article. Content is fact checked after it has been edited and before publication. • Using mindfulness to build self-awareness • Identifying negative thoughts • Replacing negative thoughts with more realistic, positive ones • Practicing acceptance rather than trying to avoid or deny negative thoughts • Learning to cope with feedback and criticism • Using a diary to track your thoughts • Jumping to conclusions: This distortion involves making assumptions about what others are thinking or making negative assumptions about how events will turn out. • Catastrophizing: This pattern of negative thinking is characterized by always assuming that the worst possible outcome will happen without considering more likely and realistic possibilities. • Overgeneralization: This pattern is marked by a tendency to apply what happened in one experience to all future experiences. This can make negative experiences seem unavoidable and contribute to feelings of anxiety. • Labeling: When people label themselves in a negative way, it affects how they feel about themselves in different contexts. Someone who labels themselves as "bad at math," for example, will often feel negative about activities that involve tha...

What Is an Emotion Wheel? Basic Emotions During the 1970s, psychologist Paul Eckman identified six basic emotions that he suggested were universally experienced in all human cultures. The emotions he identified were happiness, sadness, disgust, fear, surprise, and anger. He later expanded his list of basic emotions to include such things as pride, shame, embarrassment, and excitement. Verywell / JR Bee Combining Emotions Psychologist Robert Plutchik put forth a "wheel of emotions" that worked something like the color wheel. Emotions can be combined to form different feelings, much like colors can be mixed to create other shades. According to this theory, the more basic emotions act something like building blocks. More complex, sometimes mixed emotions, are blendings of these more basic ones. For example, basic emotions such as joy and trust can be combined to create love. A 2017 study suggests that there are far more basic emotions than previously believed. In the study published in Proceedings of National Academy of Sciences, researchers identified 27 different categories of emotion. Rather than being entirely distinct, however, the researchers found that people experience these emotions along a gradient. Let's take a closer look at some of the basic types of emotions and explore the impact they have on human behavior. Happiness Of all the different types of emotions, happiness tends to be the one that people strive for the most. Happiness is often defined as a pleasant e...

Summary. Research shows that people suffering from emotional exhaustion experience higher levels ofwork-life conflict. They may find that they have less patience to engage with family and friends at the end of the day and become frustrated with them more easily — a problem that is exacerbated by the current Covid-19 crisis. That’s why it’s important to remember to pay attention to your emotional energy and note when reserves run low. Learn what factors tend to drain them and experiment with ways to reduce the strain. Fix what you can, and learn how to more effectively handle what you can’t. Think about what values and qualities drive you and practice being centered and present for short periods of time to create more experiences of joy and connection. 22.95 • Save • Share Take my coaching client, Evelyn. A product manager in a medical device firm that’s recently been acquired, she was already struggling with a high level of uncertainty at work prior to the pandemic. While she feels lucky to be financially stable for the time being, work remains an emotional struggle. Since the acquisition, she hasn’t been getting reliable information from senior leadership and doesn’t know whom to trust. Consequently, she can’t provide clarity to her worried, and now remote, team, which makes her feel like an unreliable leader. She is disappointed at her boss’s failure to advocate for the division and to demand greater clarity from the executives of the acquiring company. What’s worse, the...

• Facebook • Twitter • Pinterest The world is a noisy place. There’s always something going on, and it’s easy to get overwhelmed. It’s important to find ways to protect your peace so you can stay sane. How many times have you said “yes” to someone or something because you didn’t want to appear selfish or unkind? How many times have you held back from saying no because it wasn’t convenient or you didn’t want to give others the impression that you were difficult? It’s important to be a good friend, neighbor, and co-worker. But it’s also essential that you take care of yourself too. Below are 17 ways to protect your peace. What it Means to Protect Your Peace The definition of “protect” is “to keep safe from harm or damage.” When you protect your peace, you’re keeping your mental and emotional state free from negative influences. This doesn’t mean you have to put up walls and avoid all contact with the outside world. It simply means being mindful of the things and It also means being deliberate about the things that bring you joy and making sure they are a part of your life. 17 Ways to Protect Your Peace 1. Say no when you need to. Sometimes you just have to say no, even if it goes against what others expect from you. Saying no is an important way to protect your peace. 2. Stand up for yourself. It’s important to be assertive and 3. Don’t be afraid to walk away. If someone or something is causing you stress, it’s okay to walk away. This doesn’t mean you’re giving up or being a...